When I decided to write a memoir, I knew I was putting myself in the position to be talked about, hated, judged, or laughed at. Knowing this, I decided to share my life story anyway. This is the real-life, true story, of a girl who has been through many ups and downs. I did and said some things I am not proud of, I allowed myself to stay in situations that almost destroyed me, and I gave my all to boys who did not deserve anything from me. I don’t claim to have it all together. I don’t even claim to have it somewhat figured out, but I do know that sharing my story will help inspire and encourage others. The things that I have been through in my life are not for me to have an interesting story to tell people. I was brought out of those things to let others know that they too can make it out of whatever circumstance they find themselves in. There are a lot of things that Im not, hence the title of this book. Im not the prettiest, richest, smartest, or skinniest woman in the world. Im not the girl who gets the guy. Im not the perfect mom, daughter, sister, and friend, but one thing that I am not that I am very proud of, is that I am not the girl I was once was. I could go on and on about my bad “nots”, but this book is not about that. Its about how I turned my nots into cans, my cans into dos and my dos into does. I hope reading this memoir helps you realize that sometimes what you are not, makes you everything you are. I used to be the girl who was weak. The girl who felt she deserved nothing but sloppy seconds. The girl who would seek love from men instead of believing that the love from her Father in Heaven was enough. I used to be that girl, but I am NOT THAT GIRL anymore.